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Last Words

Posted: July 4, 2011 in Boy meets Girl

Dear Kevin,

What you are about to read are my final and last words to you. You will never hear or see me again.
I loved you.
I thought it was the only reason why I existed in this world.
To love you
To exist for you, to cherish you in my heart and in my soul
I loved you so much, I was in pain
Not emotional pain but a physical one.
I radiated from my chest to my face, legs and arms
I felt it all over me
When you entered a room, my skin pickled, I got goose bumps all over my neck and arms
I loved you so much that I cried at night from happiness
So happy I had you in my life
I loved you so much it consumed me
I consumed my mind, my body, my soul
I’m covered by the memories we had
The good ones and the bad
I’m covered with scars

You think this is a love poem or something?
It’s nothing near that
I’m writing this to you to know what I feel about you and let you know the last memories I have of you are not good ones
And I want to ask this question
What the fuck did I do?
What did I do so wrong that you had to inflict the punishment you gave me?
We were going out for three years
Three years
Everyone thought we were getting married
I was already picking out a dress in my mind
I still dunno what I did to you to make me hurt me so bad
The late nights
The nights you would never come home
The text messages you would send as I was talking to you
The calls that you had to receive in the other room
Before you allowed me to pick your phone, you allowed me to read your text messages
But now even if I touched your phone to bring it to you it was a problem
Then I found out the truth
You were having an affair
Sorry, you were having multiple affairs
With her
And her
And her
Oh did I mention her too?
Four different girls over the span of our three year relationship
How was I so blind not to see this?
How was I so stupid not to see the signs and know what you were doing?
I couldn’t believe it
This just comes to prove that love was never enough for you
So all the years I devoted to you are all gone

You dumped me
You of all people in the world dumped me!
Who do you think you are?
I came home and saw my clothes stuffed into Ghana must go bags outside the door
Of the house I bought with my own well earned money!
I came home and found my essence being thrown away by you!
You took my heart and smashed it into little pieces and threw it back in my face!
I want you to know
That my love is too special!
My love is too beautiful!
My love is too awesome!
To have it thrown back in my face!
You hurt me
You cheated on me
Fine!
I won’t go and meet all the girls you slept with and demand they leave you alone
No!
My mother raised me better than that
I will move on with my life!
I will move on and make myself a better person, a better woman!
So that later, five or ten years down the road
When you see me
The C.E.O of a Fortune 500 company
Rocking my Birkin bag and walking around in my Loubutin shoes
You will know
You will think
You will say
DAMN!
What was I thinking when I let this woman go?
DAMN!
What the fuck did I just miss out on?

When you read this and finally realize how stupid you were for losing me
You will know
That you didn’t deserve me
At all

Note:
1. This is the first original thing I’ve written in three weeks. I was battling with serious writer’s block and it was not pretty. So please excuse me if this post isn’t awesome or special. I’m still trying to get a hang of things.
2. This weekend, I attended a literary evening which was to mark the end of a workshop that Chimamanda Adichie had. I had met her before when she came to my school to give a talk and I was delighted ot meet her again. Being surrounded by literary giants and talented writers helped me and gave me the push I needed to write again. Again, I apologize if this post isn’t so great. I will get better in time.
Oh, everybody MUST read Chimamanda’s collection of short stories, ‘The Thing Around Your Neck’. Its such a wonderful collection of work. I read it all in one night.

Have a great day everyone! Toodles!

Far Away Love

Posted: June 23, 2011 in Boy meets Girl

Good morning everyone! Today is the third post from my third guest writer. Her name is Coco and you guys probably know her as @CeceNoStockings on twitter. She’s a really good friend of mine and I hope you all enjoy her piece.

I think I love him. Okay. Maybe not ‘love’, but something pretty close. I’ve never actually met him, but that doesn’t matter. Right? I mean, it shouldn’t. Should it?

I met him online a while back. I think we hit it off immediately. He was funny, and charming, and witty and…*sigh*. Waiting up everyday for him to come online (Time difference: 6hrs). Staying up all night chatting, even though I had morning classes. Although it was a purely a physical thing at first, we’ve somehow ended up where we are now.

Where are we? I don’t know.

It’s been years. I’ve grown closer to him. I can tell him anything and everything. And he does the same, even though I make it difficult sometimes. I’m happiest when we’re chatting. He says he hates when I’m sad. It’s not just physical anymore. He says he wants all of me. He’s mine. He wants to make me happy.

I don’t know.

Can we really be in love? Like I said, we’ve never actually met. But what I feel for him is deeper than anything I’ve felt for anyone. We’ve had fights (mostly my fault), and we’ve made up. Even when I did something really horrible and irrational, he was my rock. I’ve grown to believe I need him.

We’re supposed to finally meet this year. In a couple of months. I’m at a difficult place now. I’ve made some bad decisions. But he’s accepted them. He looks past the problem, but I’m stuck on it. I don’t know if I can be with him because of it. But I really want to. I do. With all my being.

I’m scared he won’t accept me, even though he says he does. I’m scared it won’t be okay, even though he says it will. I’m scared because I don’t want to lose him, even though he says he’s mine.

I’m scared because I love him. Because I really do.

Internet love. What do you all think about it? Can you be in a relationship with someone you have never seen before? Does it ever work out? Leave comments on the issue.
Coco has a blog which you all know but if this is your first time, feel free and head there. She’s a great writer!
I haven’t been posting original stuff because I’ve been dealing with serious writer’s block. I hope by Monday, I’ll have something original on the blog.
Watch out for my memoirs. I’ll be writing about my experiences as an intern at an advertising agency in Lagos. I’m excited about my new job!!
Enough talking! Have a great weekend everyone! :*

Reflections on what we want

Posted: June 12, 2011 in Boy meets Girl

Hello, everyone. Today’s post is different. I have a new section of my blog called ‘Boy meets Girl’ and its all about boy/girl relationships. I really don’t know how to talk about issues like this so I had a friend of mine write something to start it off. His name is Dayo Omidiran and he’s a very special friend of mine. He knows loads of stuff when it comes to relationships. He’s the first of my guest blogger series. Without any further ado, I’ll let him take the floor.

Before I begin, let’s remember to keep in perspective that everyone has an opinion and this is mine.
So I have been around for quite a while, seen, heard and done a lot of things and I’m going to be sharing some things with you. I have seen people claim to love someone and sleep with everyone else. I’ve seen people claim to be “bad”, but when the time comes, are scared of sex because they’re virgins. I’ve heard all variations of lies….believe me; there’s nothing new anymore. But what I’ve done? You’ll get that jist eventually.
So I spent about 5 years in university (partially because I was having too much fun and partially because of ill health) and garnered a whole lot of experience not just on my actions, but those of the people around me. I’ll talk about an issue about boy-girl interactions and their goals. I’ve heard girls say stuff like “I want a nice, caring guy who will take care of me and put me first”. That is incorrect. I’ve also heard another one (although this one is rarely publicly spoken): “I want a bad guy”. That is also not correct. This one also intrigued me: “I just want to do him because he’s hot”. That is rarely correct and even less adhered to. Don’t worry; I’ll explain myself.
Every girl that has claimed to want a nice guy has ended up taking him for granted. You don’t appreciate or value what you get for free. I don’t blame anyone for that, but what I don’t agree with is the wrongful assumption that it’s her right to get that good treatment when it’s a privilege. It’s quite self-centered to forget about the guy’s feelings and his conscious choices to treat her well based on her feelings. If that’s the case, it can’t just be a nice guy a girl wants; let’s go to the next one. So some girls want a bad guy: A bastard…..a player……a heartbreaker……one who has the feature of anti-commitment. Every girl hears about that bastard, the rake who “uses and dumps” girls and is warned to avoid such guys. It’s an unspoken law of human nature that such people will become more desirable and so has it been since the fall of Adam and Eve. Even when she asked Adam after they ate the forbidden fruit if it was sweet, he replied, ‘Sweet is the Forbidden’ (Qur’an).
Truth be told, I believe that every girl has a higher opinion of herself than is realistic because they would go after such guys in the belief that they would be the ones to change that guy and make him commit to her. They pretend to feel sorry for the victims before them, but secretly look down on them and laugh. Each girl secretly believes that she’s better than the next; is that the essence of why they compete in beauty, material things and in love, meaning men. None stop to wonder why he (The player) didn’t change with the other 10, 20 girls before her. Most forget that he has to want to change in the first place. They end up being used too for the same hubris, and become the same victims they used to laugh at in secret. That means wanting a bad guy falls short of their expectations, as the excitement has worn off and he has been a really BAD guy. Lol
On to the next one: Some of them want to do a guy because he’s hot. In short, they’ve seen a walking dildo. This is a disastrous idea not because it’s particularly bad (who said girls can’t initiate a booty-call too?) but that a lady’s own nature is her worst enemy here. Most women tend to let their emotions go, and I can confidently speak from experience that I know a girl who tends to like a boy from just a kiss. Imagine those who then keep sleeping with someone. It’s in a girl’s nature to want more….. Furthermore, women are possessive and like to show-off about what they’re enjoying; this will be a problem if she’s just “doing” a hot guy as she has no rights to him. Furthermore, her bragging will also be a bane for her, as other girls will want what she has. The coup de grace will be the fact that she’ll be powerless to stop them, as she said before, “I just want to do him because he’s hot”. Fail.
What they all want is the amalgamation of all I mentioned, which is, “I want a bastard, hot and doable but also capable of being good, ergo, capable of treating me well and putting me first”. Win right? Wrong! There’s no such guy; because that’ll mean that the guy is perfect and there’s no such thing. I’d say you should try to find the best person who will be compatible with you and who you’d appreciate. Ladies take a critical look at yourselves and please remember: It’s not all about you.
I’ll talk about guys here and it’s a bit simple here. For a guy, he’s either about plain friendship, sex or a relationship. If a guy says he wants to do a girl, he just wants to. If he wants to be friends, that’s it. If he wants to date a girl, he’s serious. I will also say that guys can be very selfish and greedy. Some guys lie to get into a girl’s panties, some lead girls on and some guys just like the thrill of the chase. I know guys who can’t help themselves and still cheat, despite claiming to have the babe of his dreams. That’s just greed and selfishness.
I’ll say this in conclusion, there is no absolute in anything but God. No two people are the same, and there’s no situation or theory that applies to everyone. I do not believe in judging anyone and do not accept judgment. Also, if you find yourself taking offence at anything I said, then, it probably applies to you (lol); take some time off to do a self-analysis. I wish all of you luck in everything you do.
X
PS
Next time, I’m going to talk about complications, and I’ll also share some of my personal experiences on them.

So there it is! Leave comments about what you think down there. You should follow him here @MrOmidiran. Also, he has a great blog which you all you read. Oh and if you are interested in being one of my guest bloggers, pls leave a comment telling me so! 🙂

Until next time!!! 😀